Taking a look at practical tips on how to exit learned fat hate, inspired by a post (at fat anarchy).
Start off by remembering that this is about other people’s identity, being imposed on you. See it as a bit like internal foreign occupation.
You’re aiming to go from there to a state of internal independence and self determination, which has been repressed underneath.
Taking from my own experience, I’d start with desensitization. You’ve become highly negatively sensitized to fatness your own and the idea of it.
That is on a similar pathway to a phobia, like being afraid of spiders. So you need to focus some on calming your mental reactions to this.
Look at yourself fully clothed and then naked, learning to just observe without judgement. In between that, learn to calm yourself whenever you think of your body.
STOP all the everyday cycle of fat hating that goes around in your mind. Literally when you notice it, tell your mind to stop, plus any conscious fat hating talk. When catch yourself saying “fat bitch/stupid” and so on, whatever things go even slightly wrong, learn to tell your mind STOP. Abruptly, like that. Learn to change course and say something to immediately counter any insult.
At some point, insults become linked to compliments, or just remembering what you like about yourself.
Write it down. My mind used to go totally blank at this point, so I had to be patient about it. Carry it around on a piece of paper or notebook, take it out to read it when you are caught up in the cut and thrust of life.
See this as a holistic process. You are not just healing your feelings about fatness, you are healing your sense of personhood and autonomy. This is very important, in fact, if you find your reactions to fatness are too strong-a possibility for many.
———->Start here. Healing yourself as a whole not focusing on fat at all if necessary. Taking the pressure off other areas of your mind frees up energy which then flows to where it is needed more.
Take up something that relaxes you mentally and physically such as meditation (you can lay down with your legs bent at the knee to stop yourself dropping off if you prefer-pick a spot on the ceiling to focus on), guided relaxation.
If you like to move, try a walking form of meditation-aiming to clear your mind and merge it with your movement as one (I wouldn’t clasp my hands). Things like yogic breathing and Tai Chi encourages the process of reconnection with your own body and mind as one. Most fat people need that.
Relaxing your body physically helps to free healing energy for your mind.
It’s like a lot of profound change of mind, both nearer and further away than you expect. When you get to a more neutral attitude towards yourself and your body, you’ll be able to see another more positive vista to aim at, sometimes that happens automatically. Often, there are pauses in between progress, so don’t worry about that.